Whether it’s subconsciously done or with full awareness, we sometimes seek the approval from others. It is natural to want to be accepted, or at least be “approved of”. It just makes things easier, however, this goes bad when people are going the extra mile or being completely out of character to gain the acceptance of others.
There are so many fads and phases that people go through to be in the “in-crowd”. Everyone once was a rockstar, now everyone is a hipster (side-eye). There’s nothing wrong with wearing the latest fashions and being in style, but when you let what you are wearing consume you and alter your personality just to fit in, you have got to chill. Immediately, new sneaker-heads are going broke and twitter-trickin to buy their sneakers so their closet can look somewhat like Justin’s (Shoepac aka @whoisjaewood)
As cliche as this may sound, it is VERY important to be yourself. That goes beyond the clothes you wear and the slang you use. What I am referring to now is your character. There are specific characteristics that make you, you. These personality traits come NATURAL to you with absolutely no effort involved. However, there may be some characteristics that one might possess that may be less socially acceptable. Typically a person with less desirable personality traits may bury these traits below the surface in order to avoid rejection from society. That’s expected, but you can only pretend to be someone else for so long. There are so many young people who feel trapped in their own bodies, because they are so afraid to be themselves. This leads to all types of negative results. Suicide sounds like something far-fetched, but unfortunately some would rather die and be at an eternal rest because they have worked so hard at being someone else and they are just tired.
People have got to realize that rejection is going to happen, period. Whether it be from someone you are attempting to pursue, possible employer or the “crowd”. Regardless of how perfect we may try to be, someone is ALWAYS going to turn their nose up, or find a way to point out something we are doing wrong. Once individuals grasp the fact that people are going to be talked about one way or another and begin to be their true selves, life becomes so free! Life is too short to walk around being someone else because you’re too afraid to be talked about or rejected by society; especially when people will most likely talk about the “fake you” too. Embrace who you are naturally because regardless of what you do, someone is ALWAYS going to have something to say. Personally, I’d rather get talked about for my effortless actions, than to put extra effort into being someone else and still be rejected by society or the masses.
I personally have gotten talked about ALL of my life. Literally. Therefore my thick skin is layers deep, the bullshit is expected, and it rolls off of me like water. I definitely wasn’t a lame sitting alone in the lunch room, however, even while being accepted by the “in-crowd”, someone ALWAYS had something to say about something I was doing about something that didn’t even involve them. Ma’am, please take your seat. No I am not about to rant, but I also want to remind those who struggle with their inner-self…that a majority of those whom you seek acceptance from most likely do NOT play a critical part in your livelihood. Those opinions my dear are just that….opinions. Those whispers about what or who you are doing are just those…whispers. These whispers are not secretly withdrawing money from your account, or telling your landlord to evict you. When you think about it, the rejection from the masses typically have no real result. So uh…f*ck it!
My Badu said something like “Working on pleasing me cause I can’t please you, and that’s why I do what I do!” Please, do what pleases YOU!! There is NO way you can please EVERYONE! Do not even bother guys. You need to be at peace with yourself by all means and it really does start from the inside. Yes, I know that sounds corny and cliche’ but it’s true. Let’s not focus on what the masses are going to say about us! Fabolous put it best when he said “You think I give a f*ck what these n*ggas say? They even talked about Jesus!”
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