Cordially Yours x Corrie Bradshaw
I’m at the point where this sentence annoys me, “If you don’t like me, don’t speak to me.” Though I understand it with every breath in me, I find it juvenile and very indicative of a person’s level of maturity.
If I am in a scenario where there is someone I am not particularly fond of, however we are for whatever reason forced to be in mixed company, I find nothing wrong with being cordial. But that’s the issue isn’t it? People are confusing those who are being cordial with those who are being fake. My opinion? Like most words, people throw the word “fake” around all too often. More importantly here, people throw the word “friend” around even more.
Yes, the word at times can simply be used as a term of endearment rather than taken literally. Let’s be honest, if we kick it and someone says, “tell your friend Clubesha I said hello”, I’m not gonna say, “that’s my associate, we’re not friends”. But in the light of such a situation, perhaps you should evaluate if that person you call your friend (that you know through your cousin’s girlfriend and that you have a fun time with at Republic) is truly a friend….or just an associate you met on twitter.
You control the reality of the words you use. YOU give them power, so be clear when you use them so that you’re not confusing yourself with diction.
Back to the word cordial. To me, it comes off a bit self-righteous to consider someone being cordial….fake, in the sense that you would be offended if you knew someone didn’t like you and got upset that they took time out to acknowledge you. It means that whatever said person had to say about you or did not like about you, mattered enough to make you angry. Don’t throw around the word fake because the truth of the matter is…. everyone is not your friend, and no one owes you loyalty.
But don’t be a child. If you’re at work or in any organization where you have to work with someone who may not tickle your fancy to get a project done, will you avoid them because you heard they said some thing about your shoes? Me? You’re not f*cking up my $ or my rapport because you have an opinion. I will smile at you as we work on this presentation and think nothing else about you after quitting time.
Same thing in the real world. If I hear “#OneOfMyFollowers had something to say about me, yet spoke to me next time they saw me”, I get it. Though you may have an opinion about me, I doubt you hate me enough to go OUT of your way NOT to acknowledge me. As long as you’re not in my inbox telling me how awesome I am, I take it and continue on with my night.
As for the people who do get in your face with a smile, lie to you about how they really feel about you, and talk about you behind your back? Remember…. No one owes you loyalty, so don’t expect things from people unworthy of your expectations. Because to be honest….
“How you feel about me, is none of my business.”
-some shit I saw on twitter…. You know? The place where most of you became “friends” in 140 characters or less.
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This!!!!!!!!!! Boom! Bam!!!!! Love it!!!
Agree with all of this! However, it takes me less energy to simply not say anything to someone I’m not too fond of and prefer they do the same. Of course, if we’re forced to be in close quarters, then being cordial is essential. But in passing? Nah. As far as being fake, I don’t particularly find it fake if someone I KNOW doesn’t like me speaks, but being in my face being extra and singing my praises? That IS fake and kinda scary (think: Lifetime movie).